results in other risks. In answer to your question, "yes" and "of course". HIV is transmitted by bodily fluids that do NOT real kinky sex stuff have exposure outside the body. Blood is #1, but there are others mostly because they contain trace amounts of blood. So, the thing is that if you maintain a steady relationship with someone who is HIV+, you are going to multiply the risk of *something* happening times over that could be deadly contact . perhaps a cut or scrape, a sore, a little pre-cum, whatever. None are nearly as high risk as having intercourse and exchanging semen or your with virus laden tissue, but the risk is non-zero. Being non-zero, multiplying it times over can result in a number that be small, but still unacceptable to you. It gets worse if you live with them, of course. The opportunities are further expanded by all the sharp objects and shared facilities. The risk factor becomes substantial, and most people end up sharing the virus in 10-15 years. So, the question is, what do you have in mind for this relationship? A weekend? a few months as his boyfriend until you find someone better? or a LTR "till death do you part"? Smart? I would say no.