A year ago I found my wife cheated on me during x-mas and I have been trying hard to forgive her, but I keep thinking back to the way she treated me during that time and how cold she was and then when he dumped her she went back to being nice agian like it was no big deal. To my amazement I do not really mind the cheating but more the abandament and how she seemed disgusted with me like I was doing the cheating. The really sad part about it was I was working 7 days a week and 12 hours a day trying to save money to go visit my dieing grandfather and she was spending my money on him. He passed away Just after I found out she was cheating and during the time of his funeral and the drive she was texting him. I was just wondering when I would stop feeling this way toward her. It never bothered me that she was getting fat but now I look at her with disgust. After 16 years of marrage I have to think of other woman when we have sex now. Becouse when I look at her during it all is her betrayal. We have I adopted her boy which is 18 now and we have two more together I was thinking of trying to stick around until the youngest of 10 turns 18 I do not know Do you think it is better to stay or split