Hi, I came across your. I think what you need to understand is that when your molested it doesnt go away. Memories come back at any given point. She needs someone who is willing to give alot of attention. Its the littlest things that count. from cuddling at night to holding hands while out in public or on the sofa watching tv. Its the "how are you?" and "Your beautiful" questions and comments that I know I look for in my significant other. Sometimes I just want to be treated as a little girl because I feel like I never really grew up. Im sure she feel the same way. After being molested I really dont feel i ever get passed it and because of it I am stronger however more sensitive. Remember Strength and sensitivity are two different things. Not to be confused with weakness. Some girls think they are weak if they cry and get sad but contrary they are able to let there feelings out by crying and get passed it for a little while. Just be there for her when you notice something is different. Its a balance of attention and space that needs to be found. You have to be willing to commit enough to give attention and also be wise enough to know when to pull away and let her go thru what she has to go thru by herself. I honestly get crying spells just because someone looks like my molester. Or someone says something I remember from then. Or if a stranger brushes by me and it feels weird. It happens and its hard to deal with but it reality.