I know it wasn't the funnest thing to do. So look, your mom is choosing to ignore her seeking new Itapevi fun excitement outburst and you can too. OR you and your sis could talk to her about it, take it seriously, express concern, and suggest ways she develop a support network so she doesn't feel neglected. Talking to her wouldn't be fun or easy. It might not do any good; but then, again, it might. I'd steer away from the topic of holidays (which are crazy-making for a lot of people) and stick to the core issue: that she feels insignificant. The goal would be to encourage her to set up a couple regular social activities and perhaps a therapist, NOT because you think she's crazy, but to find support for getting a life now that she's on her own. You're right that the prospect of growing old alone is scary. American attitudes toward the aging are brutal. Here, an upset lonely mother is written off as manipulative and "not your problem" and best ignored. It's not like that in much of the world. In a whole lot of places, it's not the social norm to expect an aging parent to fend for herself or be independent of adult. I'm not remotely suggesting you live with your mom or cheerfully/dutifully visit her times a week, as you'd be expected to do in Europe. Just saying expectations are ridiculously high and only the most enterprising older women can meet them and "start over" or exercise the degree of stoicism we like to pretend is natural. Your mom be crazy; but a lot of people go crazy without social or family support. Kudos to you for trying to do the right thing. I the situation improves.