and it's nothing your wife won't mind doing. I when my husband lays in bed with his legs wrapped around my waist with his whole package in my lap with a bottle of oil.. there are several techniques..with slow massage.. then there is *polishing the silver*..and others. I like that we can talk or watching him lay there enjoying. I can bring him *close* over over until I decide to let him go then the real *hand job* begins. I know every nerve in my guy.. it's sexy and bonding. It's great on night's that I don't want to..yet he's in the mood. this helps!..I's one of my favorite things!