Munches simply equal networking or feelers. Like Calamari Saratoga Springs type tenticlies. I have often thought of the Fo as an online munch, especially when it is doing its best. I was just wondering how much of that could translate into the local bdsm community. I thank you for answering my multitude of questions. So, I'm doing the not dating thing. It's going fine. I'm busy and happy the vast majority of the time. It's all groovy, except for when it isn't. Mostly, I'm content. But I had an interesting predicament arise yesterday that got me thinking about the inherent reactions I have when surprises occur Took the Babykake and Pupkake on a little mini-vacation over the weekend. Had a great time. Dropped her off at home and then less than 5 minutes later, got rear-ended. I wasn't seriously hurt, but did need medical attention. It's clear I have whiplash and a separated shoulder. I drove myself home, but knew I should get to an ER for some x-rays. And I sat in my car at a complete loss about who to ask to take me. I don't have local family I can rely on, and asking a friend to come fetch me and sit with me for hours on end in the ER, take me to the, make sure I got fed, etc just seemed like too much to ask of someone I wasn't sleeping with. I was just struck by the feeling (not for the first time; it happened once before when I was hospitalized) that I don't have a "person" I feel I can on that heavily when I am truly, earnestly, pointedly in need of care and hand-holding. That I that so much as the provenance of the significant other, that I don't have someone in mind to ask in lieu of one. I realize I have people who care about me in my life who probably WOULD if I asked, but I just almost don't know how to go about choosing and asking someone that kind of question: "Hey, so you wanna be my non-lesbian lifemate and emergency contact person?" Guess it's time to start putting names in the hat