I sooo understand what you mean. Fronts are used to hide the anguish, loneliness, and frustration they feel. But it's also because the community is conditioned to act/behave that bitch want for sex way. The focus is always on superficial and material things. Which is part of the "front", which contributes to why the heterosexual community thinks about us the way it does. I'm just as frustrated sometimes. Can't really meet guys at the gym because most are there because they are either focused on achieving the 'perfect body', or there just to cruise. Can't meet at a bar because if the smoke doesn't kill you, the mindless banter of the regular twink barflies. And you can't really meet anyone from a local community group because of all the 'in-breed dating' and jealousies associated with that. So most guys (including myself) just keep plugging along until one of things typiy happen: they settle for anything that comes along to avoid loneliness; they become emotionally numb and settle into a rhythm of periodic "tricks" that satisfy sexual needs; or they are actually lucky enough to find an equally frustrated "decent" guy and they live happily ever after. As depressing and pathetic as this sound, I've found that the sense of in "meeting Mr. Right" comes from realizing the situation and developing a strategy that helps you get through it. One answer does not fit all. PS Get goldfish instead they're scientifiy proven to reduce stress and you don't have to walk them. :-)