is brought on by you being pregnant. The emotions and all that. Also the fact that your husband cant "finish" is because of his alone time with himself. He is de sensitized(sp). But anyway it has nothing to do with his lack of for you. Also does he watch porn during this? If so that is anougher reason. Also getting news that your going to puts a sour taste in your mouth. I have been there done that and it killed my sexual drive. I was almost in a haze the world kinda faded around me for a little bit. Then i snapped out of it and wanted to do what i could as much as I could. Its something that is hard to understand. Also by you freaking out he closed up worse. You freaked him out. he was probley thinking that if he left he was going to lose you because you couldnt deal with being without someone to on. My girl friend did that to me (later she broke up with me while i was in country but different story) Any way when she broke down I was like well be a statistic. I ended up being right hopefully that wasnt the thoughts going through your mind. Anougher thing is he is a soldier apon news of learning he is going to his thoughts turned to friends and family and who he was going to and who he wanted to spend time with before he went. Which also would include massive amount of drinking till he forgets he is even going. I spent tons of times with my friends and partying and things i wouldnt be able to do for the next year. I am not really trying to justify his behaviour just if it was his first tour that is what happened. Me i went through two of those and the secound time i acted completly different. I was more calm and collective and I had more control. I this helps you a little bit of what he might have went through and its possible he is still in a sort of shock about the near of having to go over.