I'm what I thought was happily married, which is to say I feel that my wife is a friend , a lover, I respect her greatly. 15 years of marriage so far, not so unhappy. Here's where divorce comes in. Lately I've been driven to the conclusion that she's abusive. At first, I wasn't so sure but I realized she doesn't want us to be around any friends (at all) and we run a small business together which she's been driving into the ground. We're nearly bankrupt, and she refuses to work but she takes my money that I make and sends it away. I've been reading about how can be emotional, economic, and physical. She often insults me as of late, sometimes up to 30 times a day. Withering insults like "I'm a abuser" and "Your parents are awful" (despite the fact that they are all wealthy, kind people living on a nice island). And she does it in front of the. I have lately been trying to de-fuse the situation by ing for "30 seconds" which is great it kind of goes like this. I listen for 30, you speak. And then I get a to speak, and you listen. But very often she breaks out into crying, or yelling. I have been trying to get us to marriage counseling but she refuses to go. I caught her doing strange things like taking all her clothes and piling them on the floor. She doesn't do dishes anymore (now its my job) and she refuses to set up a dirty clothes hamper (thats right! isn't that strange) and clothes stack up to the ceiling. She refuses to wear shoes in the cold weather. Its just strange. The last straw came when I asked if maybe we could go out, a nice couple we met at a cub scout meeting and she refuses. She plays games with it. I have to do X, Y and Z and then we can go with them to dinner. Worst of all, my daughter has now taken to theft and she refuses to admonish her. Its such a strange turn of events. Despite all of this I believe it is our that we are together, and I fundamentally believe she's able to get on track but its just so insane our lives are so out of control. I often hide by running into virtual worlds like warcraft or stop answering the phone but lately things have been getting so out of control Is this a divorce?