Being a married guy looking for something akin to this, yes, it certainly is possible. But it is not easy to find, from my side. Most guys are afraid of us married guys, or are going to want married seeking fuck more than being #2. guys just can't relate to my situation, either. A married bi guy would be my first choice, but they are hard to find except online, where you can waste a lot of effort only to find that there is no 'chemistry. Ah, well. And yes, if the guy is married and she does not know, it be a problem. Still looking for that special friend.