Disclaimer: To my knowledge, I've never posted here. I'm way more of a lurker than a talker. That being said, I find you guys immensely entertaining. So I read the Rebound thread with interest. I'm coming out Newfane NY bi horney housewifes of a much shorter relationship (2 and a half years). My problem is that the relationship with this woman was abusive. It was not something I recognized immediately; it completely crept in on me. It's particularly hard because I'm really a very independent person, and something about her made me feel like I could or had to give up that stubborn independent streak. On to my questions: #1: I am firmly in the camp of no serious dating until I am over said relationship. Yes. Great. Do any of you date casually? And date multiple people? I wasn't sure it was something I could handle, but I'm finding getting to know new people on a very casual level to be fun and rewarding. My problem is that, not weeks into my dating foray, one of these people is persistently pushing to be my "girlfriend". Now, clearly this is someone I probably don't need to continue seeing as a potential romantic partner. That being said, what are y'all's experiences with casual, no pressure, just out for a good time and to meet good people dates? And what makes it more than a date or suggests to you that it's moving to another level? Is it just sex? Or something? #2: The ex's behavior was, in ways, so bizarre, that I think of my feelings about that relationship are going to stick to her rather than migrating into any future relationships. I thought that, anyway, until I realized I have this big distrust that people are going to morph into something they didn't originally make themselves out to be. My guess is that in making new friends and meeting new people, this distrust fade as these relationships progress. But am I missing something? Is there more to closure and getting over a relationship other than time? Obviously, there is some introspection involved, but .I don't know. I feel like I'm not grasping something.