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This is going to be a short book. A topic near and dear to my heart I am only as as I am now because I quit my high-stress, 12-hour day newspaper job to work for a state university. I don't know what your work situation is like, but I found it near impossible to cook and exercise regularly while living with an ever-changing schedule. But I know changing jobs isn't an option for everyone (nor was health the motivator, but it became a great bi-product.) As an example of the effects of stress on the body, when I worked at the newspaper, I had strep throat every to months and was scheduled to have my tonsils. At my new job, I haven't had it once in a year and I was able to cancel the operation. I don't know what level of health you're starting from, but I'm going make some suggestions based on what I've changed over the past year to become healthier. exercise: jog with a friend. when i first started a year ago, i couldn't run a mile without stopping. now, when i jog with my best friend, we talk so much i run about without noticing. almost. class exercise. i don't jog in the 'cause it's too hot in texas. the university i work at offers yoga and pilates classes everyday at 5:15. it's enough time to get there, but not enough time to get distracted with something and not go. the people there aren't barbies, but the class atmosphere keeps me motivated and accountable. chose some form of exercise you enjoy, not something you have to drag yourself to, because that won't stick. walk, swim, play racquetball, or do yoga. i can't really recomend yoga enough. and also chose a time of day you can stick to. creating a routine for yourself helps these health decisions became a part of your lifestyle. and this is real dramatic, but i sold my car a few months back. you can't help but exercise more when you walk and bike everywhere. this decision has had the most dramatic domino effect. now that my health is also my transportation, i value it so much more and my choices reflect that.