so I beat him with a belt. And yes I say beat because if your trying to make a point a light tap would not do it. You would need at the very least xxx wife want dating inflict some sort of pain to make a difference. You choose to whip off your belt and hit a instead of looking for a better way to deal with the. Hey I understand getting upset and taking a swing in a moment of frustration. Hell I can imagine any parent doing that. Though most parents have more control over there emotions then there do. But the idea you raised your hand to a thats not even yours and by your own words are not even in his life anymore is alittle stupid. You are the one who is to go out at night because your the cops you. Can you imagine the fear an 8 year has when an adult decides to physcially rip his belt off and hit him in that ass with. Its sad and I am glad your basiy or bi or whatever you yourself so you cant produce any.

What is your "pet peve" when watching or viewing porn? Mine is when one of the guys is as Sweeden soft as the leather in a '73 Cordoba. he's probably not just doing it for the money. There are enough guys out there I'd think that they wouldnt have to use somebody who's not at least going to get it up enough for the production. I just bought a vid at a local store- as usual, it looked great on the ouside of the DVD cover but the actual video wasnt so hot. One of the scenes was guys going at it. One guy getting it from behind while also sucking off the other guy. They keep zooming in on his and its soft! I'm like "WTF?!". If that were me, you could clothes on the thing. lol Just thought I'd share and get your opinions. logical. You don't trust her, even though you try, her telling you she has or has not is not really important since your concerns are more fear based than current facts. If things are good now, then your actions of stiffing up emotionally and physiy, when she seeks closeness, is a recipe for a self-fulfilling prophecy. I would not be concerned with the ex, but more so at maintaining a closeness with the wife. While you focus on the ex you are giving the trainer less scrutiny than would be wise under the circumstances. He is potentially the greater threat of infidelity given the local. Two thousand messages in a short period of time is an absurdly inordinate amount of messages; on top of that you say they work together. This is not to say you should focus on him, because he is not really the treat. The treat is the health of your marriage, if given the opportunity the potential for infidelity can come from any number of sources. You are as vulnerable to committing adultery as well, maybe even more so, even though you think otherwise now. Something is going on in your marriage that I am concerned with. You look outside, while the rot is already taking hold within. Two thousand messages, is a clear symptom of some other underlining problem. What that is, I don't know because you obviously don't know since your focus is outward when it should be inward. The underlining problem can be anything at this time without more concrete facts beyond yours; because what you have given is tainted with your own fears. It could be her, or it could be you, or a combination of the both of you. My money is on the third. You both are good candidates for some prophylactic counseling since you are in the early stages. don't wait until things go South. Your current fears, even if they are unfounded can and become a self-fulfilling prophesy.