I mean before you got married? My fiancee and I have been through it ALL. When I met him, he had a nice job ( in DE), mature prof seeks discreet lady but it was a contract, so he was let go after a couple months. This was when he weren't together, just talking on the side. Then, when things got really bad for me, he and his uncle took me in. Now, his uncle was a parent to teen boys imagine me, 18 yr old f in a house FULL of men. Horrible. Then, after I had my, we moved into a one bdrm apt that too bad to even type about on here. We finally got to move, then to a 2 bdrm apt. For a couple of years leading up to that, he had female friend that he neglected to tell me about nothing serious. I'm not a jealous person. However, she'd liked him since their high school years and tried on more than one occasion to separate us. Never worked, but I just didn't like her, and asked him to cut communications with here. He'd promised more than once to, and I found ut he was still speaking to her. I packed up and left. Their friendship was never anything detrimental to us, I just didn't like the fact that he was doing what I asked him not to. The principle. story short, we talked about it, settled it. Hasn't talked to her since. We finally got out of that shit-hole to end up in the shit-hole we are in now the projects. He works for the housing authority we are under, but he doesn't know how because the whole system (yes, the housing authority itself, meaning the top bosses) are corrupt. We'll Most of our ups and downs I can't even write about it would definitely be a good novel though. I just feel like I know who he is, you know? So whatever I be not be totally % fine with now, apparently I can handle it and tolerate it in marriage. If I didn't know who he was before, I know it was would cause a strain and vice-versa.