OP, if you want, start thinking like their mother. If your cutie boy doesn't have the job in time, and he most likely won't, lose him. I don't know exactly what made my DW decide to cast her lot with me, but I have observed my daughter now for all of her 28 years, and I'm sure I know why she chose her guy. She wants **one marriage** and. The wedding, all on her dime, is scheduled for July. She picked him because he is sufficiently desirable to her, no sharp edges, interested in lots of things, wants **one marriage** and, has a great job and future, and has been socking away buckets of money whilst he waited for Ms. Right. Both of them come from parents who have had **one marriage** and. He was her fourth boyfriend. The other departed quietly, and we never got any tearful phone s about it. They were all ok guys, but lightweights, not ready for prime time. She figured that out and didn't take any of it too seriously. I never knew my little girl to be dazzled by any guy. I think she just finally found one as smart as she is. If you think like a mother, you won't be easily impressed by any stud who is supposed to be their father.