advice elsewhere. There is so much wrong with the concept of he owns the house, he needs to "exert authority" it's hard to know where to start. These are two people about to get married. One of them doesn't have the balls to ask the other what she's doing inthe bedroom wiht other men. Who owns the fucking house is so not important in the scheme of things. It's about the realtionship, not ownership. I think someone is exaggerating about the hours. If that's true it obvious who has the balls inthe house and it's not him. I find it hard to believe someone would be that blatant with disrespect unless there's a lot more going on. Bottom line, your friend needs to have a talk with her, not you or anyone. Regardless of her beahvior, him talking to you and you plastering his problems all over the internet is so classless it's no wonder you two are friends. The spying advice is deplorable. Either break it off or not, but if one has to stoop that low, (and it's very very low) there's your answer.