You two petty? did you date guys before you got married? Did she sweet wives want sex know then? Assuming she's over the shock, how she feel now about your need? This is cheating only if you didn't tell her, even if you though you'd never go with another again. It never turns out like we wish/want it to. It's not a matter of blame; too soap-oper-y; get down to the reality, the brass tacks of the reality of life; lots of bi and lesbian people out there, only natural for the male version for balance. You her; I can relate; but does she you enough to work it out? Either occational thresomes with her and the other guy, or wait til she decides to find another guy (or gal) go cheat on you with. Most rcommended: don't go to church looking for solutions to this; they'll damn you for it, and demand total and complete emotional dependantcy on them. So you into the religious thing? God isn't in the churches/temples. "I don't know what God is, but I know what He isn't " If open to it you two can have the best of both worlds iin this experience; takes work compromise.