To say "no X" is not despising that race or characteristic?.. It is. When you mention in your ad. xxx sluts wants flirt "No small penises and no pasive" or "No uncut and head cheese" people comprehend it without having to correlate that to any race, since any race could have small penis and that certain characteristics. However when you say "No Asian" or "No Black" or "No White" Having read that there be a pause in people's mind for a second and what they'd think the next second are those stupid stereoptyping, like "ah, because asian have small penises, sexually unattractive, bla bla bla" or "ah, because whitey are shallow and chauvinist" or "ah because black are smelly and uneducated". You can't help it but it just pop up automatiy in people's mind. Especially in considering how the reality in life today teaches us well how majority treat minority. For me "I prefer X" is not a plain dumb. It's a matter of sensivity. When I "I prefer X" in an ad. I know the person has set boundaries (which is his right), now it be my risk if I try to step in and face rejection anyway. Why even bother expending the energy? Who are you? Pit, Cruise? so when you put an ad. you surely receive thousand replies even from the ones that you do not? oh please :-) When I put an ad. saying "I prefer latino and asian", in fact I got only a couple responses from white guys who I replied politely that I have made enough 'friends' resulting from my ad. They simply understand that and nobody's hurt. I still can get what I prefer without having to be insensitively blunt about what I dislike. You don't have to be a psychologist to understand what the psychological impact on the words you say to people, being a copy writer would give you enough lesson (smile). Well no matter what I still respect your opinion. This is only my two cents.