she's in panic mode. Here's my guess of how your income dynamic Glengary works: You make the supporting money, which pays the bills. She works from home with flexibility but the income is either not steady or not much and you can both get by without if need be. Assuming I got that correct, she's completely flown off the deep end because after 14 years of relying on you for support she had to step into the role of supporter. This led to the knowledge that it is hard work and she had a tough go of it. This is when the resentment started. She displaced her anger and uncertainty in you and it came out as resentment and developed into a cold attitude. Ultimately you can't fix this on your own. She has completely withdrawn from your marriage. You are thinking everything is better, you weathered the storm. She is thinking oh god what if it happens again. How you attempt to fix things (which not be fixable): Let her know how much your family means to you. Ask if there is anything you can do to help with so that she can increase her earning potential (you want to say something like: I saw the local community college has business courses, I could so take over making dinner if you wanted to take a course or two. We can fill out the fafsa together if you'd like.) Once you've established that you her and your family and you are aware that she has discovered her current earning potential needs improvement you can then move on to the next step: therapy. She does not have the coping skills necessary to jump back into marriage. You don't have the empathy skills and you moved on too quickly for her taste. Most of all you both clearly cannot communicate your feelings, fears, wants, or worries. You are both on auto pilot and it's time for a tune up. However, you go through steps and end up losing your marriage due to issues which had been buried. I think it just makes a huge fucking mess and isn't as good as the. Ferrari stuff you can get at the store. He also cures his own bacon. Another thing I'm not a big fan of. We have several local markets and delis that cure their own and it's a lot better.Subtle means exactly that. You don't want the highlights to announce your presence before you do. When you're walking down the street and a of hits the top of your head, the subtlest of highlights shine as you.