you're spending doing anything more than it has to do with the amount of time you're avoiding confronting her over what is troubling you in the relationship. You Blondes adult wants casual sex common dating don't have to throw down the ultimatum, but you could easily say "I understand you're going through a lot. I don't want to add to it. But I need to let you know that the fact that you're not willing to work on these issues so you can stop being so emotionally and physiy distant from me makes me feel like you don't value our relationship. I don't want to add to your burden, but this (completely, ridiculously vague, whatever) is now having an affect on me too. And it's not fair that I have to suffer for it. So I'm letting you know that while I'm willing to wait, my with your refusal to even begin to concoct a rough draft of a blue print for how you're going to fix this is starting to wear thin." It's obvious you didn't just come here in your previous post for validation. If you were more than happy and content to sit around waiting for her to solve these issues you wouldn't have posted in the first place. Also? To me a lot of the language you say she's using speaks of a break-up. She has to "solve some issues in regards to her past" she's going through "a lot of stress right now". You say you've been married, divorced and had other LTRs in the past, but let me tell you, from the perspective of a serial monogamist every time I've ever heard those phrases and the person I was seeing was starting to pull away from me it meant a break-up was happening.

I co-parent with my STBX however most of the days are fairly fluid because my step is 18 and our "-" is about 6 years younger. I am home when the need me if they aren't around why should I stare at the walls? I work from the moment I get up doing research, writing papers, planning things I like that kind of pace as well, it takes my mind off things. I'm also naturally curious about things and enjoy learning. I am usually to work at least an hour early most days more I stay late every night I do a good job. I work hard. Same goes for my home life. I put everything into it. If I was on a football team you'd want me as QB not because I am anything special but because I would work my ass off and am able to "get the job done."