go to local munches.. meet some of the people that share the lifestyle.. You Dingwall don't have to join in. Watch and observe then you can decide what is best for you.. sometimes.. the fantasies are enough.. :O) Ugh. You go to get a couple pounds of coffee at your local coffee shop, the place is overrun with homeless people; forget about trying to take a piss in the "sink" in the rest room a homeless guy is trying to take "showers" in the bathroom and this is in one of the batter area, can't imagine the situation in one of the not so nice areas hehehehe! Oh well