My husband's teeth were bad when we met 7 years ago (we've been married almost 5 years). I married him because I wanted a nice guy like him and I still really admire and his good qualities, which are. And I accept his faults, although I'm finding some of them, like his apathy frustrating. And there are some problem areas, like communication. My sex drive is back now that the b-feeding is finally over. I have worked on the marriage, from the get-go. I've been working really hard at it. I've gotten a referral to a therapist and I might try seeing her too. My husband does not want to get counselling. I'm in New Zealand, which has a benefit for stay-at-home parents. And once my is school-age, I'll go back to work. I actually was the primary bread-winner before my was born. My husband has since been the provider, which wasn't our original plan, but as you know, THINGS CHANGE. Obviously, a divorce would be traumatic for my. Which is why I've been trying to keep my marriage together. And if we did divorce, I realize I'd have to live near my -'s dad. Which does make me feel a bit trapped, but it's my bed, I'm prepared to lie in it. Yes, I want to have coffee and talk and flirt with people. I think in a LTR, attraction ebbs and flows and it's to fill needs within reason outside your relationship. My husband would not agree to an open relationship and I don't think I have it in me to on a secret affair (the guilt!). But maybe I can flirt a little.