I don't know the entire history, sorry, don't feel like looking it up, but really, she cheated on you. Doubt she'd have a problem letting you know she's pissed if the shoe was on the other xxx wife want dating foot. If I ever even thought my SO was cheating on me, I'd bust his ass right out the door. So, be angry. If you are going to forgive though, and work things out, then you are going to really have to vent that anger. It's just going to fester and ruin whatever you had at forgiveness. Checking other people's is just wrong. Everyone has a right to their privacy, no matter what kind of turd they are. It just makes you look insecure and controlling. Do you really want to be that person?