is that mean. It's certainly less mean than a lot of the others like politics where the issues might provoke heated arguments. However it is very heavily trolled as are all the queer forums. Probably even more so than M4M or Qufo because I'm sure the troll personality is usually a and barging in to a "-" space is well, whereas harassing queer women might seem more kosher. So bear in mind that responses are to trolls including those that seem to be women but are know to regular posters not to be. I do share your loathing for people who correct grammar and spelling ( because it's just the internet not a thesis paper) but there are people like that all over. It's a common type of nitpicking. As to the fuel for the fire argument most straight people are actually friendly. As to the few that aren't or have some particular animosity toward people why would anyone or straight care what they think? That's like saying people should care more about bigots in general, racists, people who won't hire older people for jobs etc. Those people are a minority and it hardly makes sense to cater to them. Any straight people reading this forum are either trolls or people who are legitimately curious/or questioning. I generally do advocate being nice to curious/questioning people because any homophobic statements they make might be self loathing. There is a limit though. I went out of my way to be nice to a Born Again in Bifo other people were flaming. Hatred is inexcusable but self hatred just makes me feel pity.