Sorry, but no one is that special of a snowflake. Since you appeared real kinky sex stuff to be arguing about divorces other than yours, I was just trying to point out that it might not even be able to apply in as cases as you think. And to answer your other question You answer the -' questions with age appropriate answers. DUH! My point was, wouldn't you rather do it in the time and manner YOU feel is appropriate? Rather than having the content and time imposed on you by some outside busy-body force? Tell me, which conversation would you rather have? (both completely hypothetical of course) Kid: Daddy, what is You: Where did you hear that word? Kid: Oh, at school says that mommy did that to the guy that moved in with us after you left. He says he read it on some court website or something. Then he said mommy was a slut and you were a whimp for not punching the guy. OR Kid: (on the way to your place after a custody exchange) Daddy, why doesn't half-brother get to come with us? (or some other question that only a kid, viewing the world through a -'s eyes could come up with)