I've often said that I still don't know what "-" really means. There are a lot of straight men who anal sex they know it feels good and they buy their girlfriends strap-ons. And the aforementioned fact that if I never had sex again, I would still consider myself "-". If it's mannerisms, what about all the butch guys? And you're right, in Brazil for instance, bottoms are considered "-" but the tops are still considered "straight". The more I think about anything, the less I realize I know and understand.

I have definitely become much more comfortable with my sexuality. When I found out my ex was looking at porn, I got really upset-much like you described-and Lady seeking real sex Home felt very threatened by it. That was 10 years ago, and I completely disagree with even my own reaction back then. Yes, unfortunately I would have to say you are wrong, but obviously not intentionally so. men, AND WOMEN!, look at and enjoy porn. For some, it is out of boredom, or a release, or enjoyment, or just whatever. Regardless, it IS normal. Now if he was looking at something that really disturbed you or involved pedophilia, yes, that would be something to get upset about. But the fact that you refer to it as "catching" him indicates that you find it punishable, and is why so people are afraid to explore themselves and their relationships sexually. More often than not, this comes from being made to feel that sex and masturbation are 'dirty' and something to be ashamed of when you were growing up. My advice would be to really examine WHY you feel like this is such a "bad" thing and once you've come to terms with that. Then maybe surprise him one night by bringing some "light" porn home as a surprise (order it online if you can't bring yourself to go out and buy it somewhere) with a bottle of wine and you might just find you really enjoy yourselves TOGETHER. In the meantime, don't make him feel bad abbout it. He has done nothing at all wrong. :)