you're not trying hard enough. while good prospects might be found anywhere, caters far more to the North Freedom impatient, spammers, lazy, and desperate. face it, on people can post anything they like in a few minutes, with a fake or none, to try to draw you in for harvesting or a same-day booty. it's not the best venue for seeking LTR. either pick a site where more effort (and perhaps money) needs to be put into creating and maintaining a profile, or find local activity groups where the subject is really something you're interested in, whether you meet any romantic prospects or not. is a particularly place to look for such, sorted by zip code and keywords. why not DIY? Seems like shipping costs would be outrageous. Or hop on Fetlife and if there are any vendors in your area. Or get in touch with your local kink community and do some networking there.