I didn't want to write a novel, but I did mention I have read any and everything I could find on the subject, took it all with a grain of salt (just like Married ladies wants real sex Sugar Land the advice I'll get here). I understand the slow process of training, and prepping for it. That's actually where my questions arise. 1. Call me stupid, but I can't find any real info on the subject, but if you "train" a butthole, is she becoming permanently loose? am I destroying her? 2. The stock phrase is "put the lube you need, and then add more" WTF does that mean, if I am in her vagina, we don't use any and if we do, just a few drops. Granted there is no natural lube, but does that mean I just turn the bottle of lube upside down and squeeze until it's empty on my penis? If not how much, and where do I need to put it? Thank all of you again, say whatever you want, I respect you giving your time and opinion.