but what the hell were you thinking? You're 23 now, and Mobile sex contact in Dunbar Nebraska been with this guy 4 years which means at 19 you started having with a 26 year old. Let's add to that mess the fact that at 19, 19 mind you, you had already been married AND divorced. And what did you do after the divorce? Quickly hook up with another, older guy and start having his at 19. A relationship that is already experiencing sexual disconnects and differing term committment needs. I'll put this frankly .having his and fighting through "some storms" somehow then "proving yourself" is not going to get this guy to commit. You don’t get to "earn" the cozy life you want by having someone's, putting in the time and sticking things out. That's not how it works. I'm a firm believer that if a or a woman does not want to discuss marriage they do not want to get married. (Duh?) Seems fairly obvious, right? You've made some terrible choices. Unfortunately, this guy appears to not be the marrying type. So you're stuck. And the worst part is so are your. Assuming he's a decent dad, they are better off with him around than not. But the "cozy family" life you seek, not likely. That option probably disappeared when you made the decision to start having his without being married. I suspect you are going to have to accept that your life not involve another marriage. And hopefully, he does not get tired of this life and seek out another vulnerable teenager.