Hello, First time poster here. I have been in a relationship for 8 years. Engaged for 3. Living together for 2. We have both been married before and have from those marriages. When we decided to move in together, I sold my house (short-sale)and moved into his home (which is smaller and has made combining 2 households and our various items a challenge). At the time, living in his home was a temporary situation. We planned to start looking at another house to purchase that was a little bigger and would accommodate all our needs. About 6 months after we moved in together, I got laid off. I was unemployed for appx 4 months, until I was hired by my current employer. Now that I've been with my employer about 2 years, I am ready to get prequalified and start house hunting again. However, my SO seems content to keep things at status quo and isn't interested in looking for another home. The other thing that troubles me is the big difference in how we raise our. When we were first dating, we had conversations about politics, religion, family and ideals about raising (all things that can be deal-breakers in a relationship). At that time, we seemed to be on the same with all the above. But it's very obvious now that we are living together that our have two sets of rules, which is confusing to say the least. When I attempt to discuss the need for continuity when it comes to the, I get this response, "well, is older than your, so it's different". This applies to chores, being respectful, time spent with the family, etc. To be clear, "-" is 15 and my is 11. doesn't have any accountability or responsibility when it comes to our home. If he doesn't like something at our house, he just goes to his mom's, without much resistance from my SO. For example, I used to keep a list of chores on the fridge for each to complete each week. On -'s assigned days, he just wouldn't come over and I or my eventually do it. Since I didn't get much support from my SO, I got rid of the chore chart and now my does chores as I request. It gets very frustrating and I don't want to resent either or my SO, but its hard to be positive/pleasant about the situation. These are the two BIG issues I am wrestling with. Constructive advice would be appreciated.