Everyone has one, but yours is what matters. 1) Any job is good, but a good job is better, of course. Beggers can't be choosers sometimes. 2) Only if you are fisy irresponsible. I never cash. Why? Because I know I would spend it. So for responsibility sake, I gave my check to my wife. She did the books. No big deal to me because it is important to me that the bills get paid first. 3) Rarely seen? Yeah, fuck that. You did not get married to be out only on holidays. She does not like it, fuck her. 4)Fuck that. You are of the equation. She hear your side of things. Even if you are wrong, you get the right to say it. 5)Why can't you live in it? 6) 5 7) If you are an OTR, *DUH* they need food to live. So yes, you actually buy that. 8)They are her, but your marriage. If you have a problem with the 19 year old, kick his ass out, or prepare to divorce, but you married her knowing she had two, and her win everytime. Stop depositing into the account and get your own. This is a no-brainer to stopping her from spending all the money. If you make it, make sure the house and bills are paid and put her on a budget. Wow.. that was hard, wasn't it? You only give limited information and therefore it color what we say in your favor, mind you.