It's hard meeting people you click with, especially if you're looking for something non vanilla. I have a strong geeky side. It's never been much of an obstacle in meeting kinky guys, but you do have to sort through the vanillas to find them. Some guys have high kink potential even if they have limited experience, and those you can explore with together. Open mindedness and a lot of sexual energy are the key qualities to look for. And you're welcome, from one nerdly girl to another. :)